Do I need forgiveness ?
A Forgiveness Basic Process in 7 Simple Steps.
Coming to terms and forgiveness with your breaking-up or divorce or separation is an important step.
Being able to forgive yourself and “your significant other” as well as others involved is also an important step.
Who are you forgiving using the Forgiveness Basic Process?
Who can be “your significant other” in this Forgiveness Basic Process?
Anybody you choose to focus on, can be “your significant other” person.
Your significant other person can be:
• Your spouse, wife or husband
• Your ex-wife
• Your ex-husband
• Your lover
• Your mate
• Your father
• Your mother
• Your child
• Your girl friend
• Your boy friend
• Your in-laws
• Your friend
• Your neighbor
• Your colleague
• Your boss
• Your teacher
• Your pet
And also:
• Your body
• Your mind
• Your spirit
• Your illness
• Your situation
• Your destiny
• Your bad luck
• Your . . .
Anybody or anything you would like to get to terms with, can be your significant other.
What does forgiving and
the Forgiveness Basic Process mean?
Forgiving “your significant other” does not mean you now approve everything he or she was for you or did to you (or neglected to do or be, whatever the case may have been).
• Forgiving means to decide to confront all that happened
• Forgiving means to experience all the pain and hurt that is inside of you
• Forgiving means to bring down the charges associated with your hurt, anger, frustration, pain, disappointment
• Forgiving means releasing “your significant other” and let go of resentment, bitterness and grudges
• Forgiving “your significant other” means essentially forgiving yourself
• Forgiving means you decide to move on with your life
• Forgiving means really FEELING forgiveness for yourself and the “your significant other”
• Forgiving means healing your feelings
• Forgiving means healing your heart
• Forgiving means choosing for love
Forgiving is a process you do from the inside out in your inner world. It is a process you primarily do for yourself.
Keeping your hurt inside may hurt you even more.
Not confronting and acknowledging the hurt inside may cost you a lot of energy because hurt is surfacing whenever it can.
To comfort the pain, hurt and emptiness may lead to depression, emotional drain and exhaustion.
It may also give rise to compulsive behaviour and even addictions.
Doing the Forgiveness Basic Process may clear the way through the hurt and pain for you.
Forgiving makes all the difference for moving on with your life.
Sooner or later forgiving is pivotal for having inner peace and being able to feel again and feel love and happiness.
• Relationship Problems Tip:
Decide to enter the Forgiveness Basic Process sooner or later.
Feel if you are ready to enter the Forgiveness Basic Process now.
Consider following this Forgiveness Basic Process in 7 Simple Steps.
It may prove itself useful for you.
Forgiveness Basic Process in 7 Simple Steps
Forgiveness Basic Process - Step 1
Ask yourself: what am I experiencing now?
Acknowledge all your feelings. Know that you do not have to act upon those feelings.
Forgiveness Basic Process - Step 2
Make a list of all your feelings.
Make a list of every conflict, issue and problem.
Forgiveness Basic Process - Step 3
Release all anger, fear, disappointment, frustration and hurt.
Release each charge one by one.
Release each conflict, issue and problem one by one.
Take your time but keep releasing all these heavy feelings.
Release as much as you can by deeply experiencing all your feelings.
Forgiveness Basic Process - Step 4
After releasing all anger, hurt, pain and other feelings, you will feel quite neutral when focussing on “your significant other” and the old relationship or marriage or conflicts, issues and problems.
Check if this is the case and move on to Forgiveness Basic Process Step 5.
If it is not yet the case, loop back to Basic forgiving Step 2.
Forgiveness Basic Process - Step 5
Release with appreciation and love “your significant other”, your old relationship or marriage and all the issues associated with it.
If you are not able to feel this, loop back to Forgiveness Basic Process - Step 3.
Forgiveness Basic Process - Step 6
Forgive your “your significant other” for all that needs forgiveness.
If you are not able to feel this, loop back to Forgiveness Basic Process - Step 3.
Forgiveness Basic Process - Step 7
Wish your “your significant other” well.
Thank your “your significant other” for having had time together.
Feel only light and love for “your significant other”.
If you are not able to feel this, loop back to Forgiveness Basic Process – Step 5.
Experience the wonder and lightness of fully forgiving “your significant other”
Be free of the other person.
Note that you may need more than one session of the Forgiveness Basic Process.
It may take several sessions to come to a point where you really feel lightness.
This may take a week, a month up to a couple of years.
Layer after layer of hurts will be discharged over a course of time.
Be patient and feel lighter with each session of the Forgiveness Basic Process.
• Relationship Problems Tip:
If you need assistance in doing so, give yourself permission to ask for professional help in forgiving “your significant other”.
P O E M
A weapon however powerful it may be,
Can be superseded by a superior weapon.
But no weapon in the world can be superior
to forgiveness, non-violence and higher love.
May all the hurt find forgiveness and peace.
May all flow back to it’s source and come home.
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