Hard Getting Along with Mother
No Matter How Hard I Try

by Samantha A. Lee
(Elkhart, IN, USA)

Me and my mother used to be very close, till I was about twelve years old.
Since then all we have done is fought.
She tells me I am a horrible daughter, I do nothing but hurt her and ruin her life.
I do not know how to talk to her because every time I try and tell her something she tells me I am a selfish brat who only cares and thinks about her self.

I have tried so long to be friendly with my mother’s girlfriend, but it does not seem to work.
She also tells me that I need to change and when my mother and her friend say “change”, they want me to do everything they want me to do.
I feel both of them want to control my life.

I am 21 years old now with a 2 year old son and an unborn son on the way.
I do not want to be controlled.
I tried taking control of my life.
Both my mother and her girlfriend threaten me and tell me I do nothing but hurt and disrespect them.
I do not understand why they want to control my life so badly?
I am grown and have children now and I can not keep fighting with them over how I am my own person now and how I have my own life.

I tell my mother I love her everyday, but she wont say it back sometimes and that hurts me.
I just want my mom to love me for me and it seems she does not.

Ever since I have had my son I get constant threats about them wanting to take my son away because I am selfish and rude and do not know how to be a good mother.
I am a good mother and am there for my son everyday. I spend time with him, he has his own room, I provide a roof over his head, I give him the love he deserves and more.

I just do not know what to do anymore because I love my mom so much but I can not take it anymore!
Her girlfriend always wants to butt in and its not her business, but she has never liked me.
She has told me this numerous times and that also hurts because we are all supposed to be family. What can I do to get my mom back without her girlfriend telling her what to do and say all the time?

I want me and my mother to be happy again and not argue and scream over nothing anymore!!!

Samantha