Marriage-Problems Tips

To Love and To Be Loved by Your Spouse...

Are you looking for ways to work on your marriage-problems?
Or are your marriage-problems so overwhelming you know something needs to change now?
Either way, here are some great marriage-problems tips to help you clear your major marriage problems and issues!

No need to point out the stats on divorce rates because of marriage-problems or relationship problems.
Or the numbers on separation. These numbers are pretty impressive and are showing us clearly that we need to get into action to improve our marriage by working on marriage-problems!

It does not matter if you are about to get married, or just got married.
It also does not matter if you are 30 years together or 12 years or 4 years.
Nor does it matter if you just feel irritated, hurt, downright mad or have stonewalled off all your feelings towards your spouse.

What matters most in marriage-problems?
• Admitting not to feel happy with your marriage problems
• Deciding to do something constructive about these marriage problems



• Marriage-Problems Tip:
Ask yourself:
Do I feel happy in my marriage?
Do I want to feel happy in my marriage or relationship?
Do I want to do something about my marriage problems?

Happiness and togetherness are yours if you decide that is what you want.
Love, appreciation and a warm healthy marriage or relationship can be yours!

• Marriage-Problems Tip:
Ask yourself:
What can be improved in my marriage or relationship?
What is missing in my marriage or relationship?
• Love?
• Affection?
• Respect?
• Communication?
• Commitment?
• Passion?

It is good to know what might be missing in your marriage.
To know what your marriage problems are.
To know where you stand.

But maybe you keep focussing on what is missing, while losing sight of what is actually there and present!

• Marriage-Problems Tip:
Ask yourself:
What is good in my marriage or relationship?

• Love?
• Affection?
• Respect?
• What I have built together with her/him?
• Communication?
• Commitment?
• Passion?
• The fun times we have been sharing?
• What we bring out in each other?
• What we share together?

• Marriage-Problems Tip:
Ask yourself:
What attracted me to my spouse in the first place?
Take a moment to reflect on these reasons and feelings.
Are these reasons and feelings still real for me now?
Do I want these reasons and feelings to be real for me now and in the future?


• Marriage-Problems Tip:
Ask yourself:
Am I expecting too much from my marriage?
Find out with this Marriage-Expectations-Quiz quickly!


• Marriage-Problems Tip:
Ask yourself:
Just how serious are my marriage-problems ?


• Marriage-Problems Tip:
Ask yourself:
A cheating-wife or cheating-husband: Can I save-my-marriage?


Do I experience some form of domestic-violence in my marriage?



• Marriage-Problems Tip:
Ask yourself:
Is commitment not strong enough in my marriage?


Is communication not working well my marriage?

How do magic and love disappear from your marriage or relationship?

How does a relationship go 'bad'?
When the feeling center gets hurt in someway, when the emotional heart is in pain, it closes or contracts.

Love does not flow very well and it feels like pain.

Sometimes the pain is so overwhelming that people do not want to feel the pain.

The heart shuts down completely and all other feelings like love, joy and peace are also not flowing any more.
These folks do not feel anything, they do not experience life.

Tina & Roy: married for 3 years (Tina’s story)
I got so hurt by my husband at a party

Roy and I have been married for three years now.
What I find attractive in my husband is his straightforward, cool masculine way of being.

We had a magical dating time and our wedding day was just wonderful!
The first year was also great!
We travelled a lot, enjoyed life and a lot of passion.
But now things have changed.
I don’t know if we marriag problems, but I am not happy with my marriage.

Two years ago we went to a party.
All was fine. A friend of Roy joined us and we were chatting away for a bit while having drinks.

Then it happened.
Roy jokingly remarked that I was also one of “those women” who can be called a compulsive shoe shopper.
Both Roy and his friend had a good laugh about this remark (me!).

I can say that I felt simultaneously embarrassed, steaming mad and humiliated.
I did not have a good come back and for me the party was definitely over.
The weekend after the party I managed to mention to Roy how I did not appreciate his remark at the party.

“What remark?” was his response.

I wanted to scream but it felt so pointless and I let it go by leaving the room.

Roy did not come back to me on this issue.

Next I started to get irritated pretty quick with some of my husband’s habits like leaving his boxers on the bathroom floor and his eating manners.

Looking back, this little incident at the party two years ago was a turning point in our relationship.
It was THE incident that gave a stab to my heart!

Mike & Allison: married for 18 years (Mike’s story)
Almost separated

I must admit I have marriage problems, because I have decided that as soon as I have my financial situation in order I will leave my wife.

Allison and I have been married for 18 years and are more living like room mates now.
I think she is depressed and has been in this gloomy state for years.
Somehow she pushed me away all the time.

What are my feelings?
I feel rejected in some way and I definitely feel criticized by her all the time.
Like my mother used to criticize me when I was growing up!

Allison and I hardly talk anymore and I don’t want to be around her.
I have to protect myself and have the right to have a half way decent life and some fun and passion.

One of my friends will refer me to one of the top divorce lawyers and off I will go.
No more of these marriage-problems!

Ed & Sammy: married for 8 years (Sammy’s Story Part 1)
Very angry and hurt

Juli & Nick: married for 2 years (Nick’s story Part 1)
In second marriage and uncomfortable again

Crystal & Dave: married for 5 years (Dave’s story)
Money problems and marriage trouble

Jayden & Kate: married for 6 years (Jayden’s Story Part 1)
Working long hours and she is nagging me

Chloe-Mae & Chrissy: together for 3 years (Chrissy’s story)
Long distance relationship problems

Caroline & Nathan: married for 10 years (Caroline’s Story Part 1)
Lazy husband marriage-problems

Linda: married for 34 years with K.C. (Linda’s story)
He left me after 34 years!



• Marriage-Problems Tip:

Find out about more inspiring stories of married couples . . .

Want take action to work on your marriage-problems now?

Looking at oneself
Before looking at your spouse or other people, it is very insightful to look at yourself first.

What you can not see or give to yourself, you will not be able to see or give to your spouse or another person.
Blaming is not a constructive action.

Thinking we can change other people is also not constructive.

What is very constructive is to look at oneself.
Really look deep at oneself.
Make changes if needed.
You will have a better life after this inner work!


• Marriage-Problems Tip:
Ask yourself:
• Do I accept myself ?

• Do I accept my body?
• Have I done work with my relationship with my own parents ?
• Do I respect myself ?
• Am I committed to myself, other people and things that are important to me ?

• Am I true to myself ?

• Do I take time to communicate to reflect on my inner feelings and thoughts ?

• Do I take enough relaxation time and play in my life ?
• Am I happy with myself ?

• Am I actually fulfilled in my life so far ?