Mothers-Day Special
Happy Mothers-Day!
Let’s celebrate Mothers-Day by putting mother in the spot lights! First 5 women discuss their mothers and how they are going to spend Mothers-Day.
Meet with Carly, Katya, Lorato, Chaya and Sunny. These are the topics they discuss openly and honestly.
Mothers Day Topics
1. How was your mother’s influence on you?
2. How important is your mother’s love to you?
3. How does your mother mirror you with you being a mother to your child/children?
4. How are you going to celebrate mothers-day?
5. Any tips for other women having issues with their mother?
This page is not about expensive mothers-day-gifts that you can buy.
Here you will find mothers-day-gifts of a different kind to honor mothers and motherhood and celebrate mothers-day, expressing your feelings.
Don’t just be a dutiful daughter, but choose to make it a very special mothers-day and enjoy bonding with this special woman in your life! That is a true mothers-day-gift!
Happy Mothers-Day!
Carly – Keep talking to your mother
1. How was your mother’s influence on you?
My mother’s influence was huge! I remember a day when I was a child and my mother had a very bad day. I was terrified !
Absolutely believed that I did something wrong, that I was at fault.
From that day on I tried to avoid her whenever she had a bad day. But I felt terribly guilty that I failed to make it better for her somehow.
I mean, what can a child of 4 do, right! Weird isn’t?
2. How important is your mother’s love to you?
Very important! Like my life dependent on it, hahaha!
But seriously, somehow I do want to be a special daughter to her (I have one older sister and two younger brothers), know what I mean ...
3. How does your mother mirror you with you being a mother to your children?
Well, I try not to be like her, I try to let my 3 children know that whenever I have a bad day, it is not their fault.
I ask them to help me out, but don’t blame them if they don’t help me out even though I know they can lend a hand.
I always try to be reasonable to my kids.
4. How are you going to celebrate mothers-day?
Ah yes, we all go have brunch at my mother’s place. It’s great fun and a relaxing day for everybody.
We are into little mothers-day-gifts, something nice to let her know she is special.
5. Any tips for other women having issues with their mother?
Keep talking to your mother.
Find out what is going on in her head and in her heart.
Otherwise, you only blame yourself for her things!
In our society, women have a hard time with education, jobs, raising kids, living up to the standards, being a good wife, mother, being a good professional, employee, business woman, lover, friend, caretaker . . . . It’s a lot.
My mother is from a different generation and did I do better than she in her time? Will my 2 daughters ‘surpass’ me?
There is always a reason why we don’t measure up completely so I guess, don’t take it too personally and don’t compare generations with one another.
Just be happy as much as you can. Know what I mean!
Katya – Find motherly love
1. How was your mother’s influence on you?
Her influence was great, and still is.
My mother was a cold hearted woman and I did everything to deserve her attention and love. It was not that she was critical of me or anything, it just felt as if she was not available, not present for me.
I am the only child, and I lost my mother when I was 12 years old. At that point she really wasn’t available anymore!
Can’t say I miss her, but I do feel unfulfilled sometimes, some feeling of emptiness which makes me restless and that something is missing in my life.
I have been traveling a lot in my twenties and thirties, went to India, Africa, Brazil, places like that.
Now I’m settled down but still can have this feeling of restlessness.
2. How important is your mother’s love to you?
Very important! Love of a mother is the basic thing that keeps a child alive! It’s cruel to withhold love, it’s absolutely offensive to withhold love and affection from babies!!!
3. How does your mother mirror you with you being a mother to your child/children?
I don’t have children. I guess I would like to have children, but currently I don’t have a life partner.
4. How are you going to celebrate mothers day?
I’m not into celebrating mother’s day. I read somewhere that our modern mothers day as we know it now in Europe, during World War 2 was also a way acknowledging women who had begotten the highest number of sons in their country. Sons who will be used as soldiers fighting wars.
But I suppose honoring mothers and motherhood as the source of life goes a much longer way into history and takes place all around the globe in some form.
Now I could say that mother’s day and also father’s day are commercial events in the west and not worth anybody’s attention, but this indifference and stone walled feeling is really part of my remaining pain with my mother.
The truth is that my mother and really both my parents have had a tremendous impact on my life!
Mother’s Day and also Father’s Day could be good moments during a year to honor your parents if you really feel that way. To feel grateful for what is working in your life, is a good thing. It’s a feeling inside and it’s very private.
5. Any tips for other women having issues with their mother?
If you are not happy with your mother, find another female person and relate to her.
This could be an aunt, a neighbor, a teacher, a friends’ mother, any body. Later in life I found out I was attracting women to mentor me.
This works well for me, to find the support and warmth I am longing for. For what it’s worth, I am grateful for my life and thus thank my parents who gave me this physical part of my life!
Lorato – My mother’s voice pops up in my head!
1. How was your mother’s influence on you?
My mother had a pretty big influence on me.
Somehow me and my mother competed for my Dad’s attention and I guess this already started when I was a very young child
. Some sort of nagging jealousy.
When I was in my teens I didn’t have girlfriends at all. We were all competing with one another.
I’m 42 years now and sometimes I hear my mother’s voice in my head. Her views, perceptions and her opinions keep popping up in my head. It’s very annoying, because I don’t necessarily share these opinions! This was specially hard when I was having my divorce. I had to go through with it, while my mother was very against the divorce. So I didn’t see my mother for about a year, but still her critical voice kept popping up in my head.
Big Mother is guiding me, hahaha!
2. How important is your mother’s love to you?
Oh very important, more that I want to admit, hahaha! But my auntie also loves me.
My auntie shares deep things with me. She is very religious and touches me as it feels good to me.
3. How does your mother mirror you with you being a mother to your child/children?
I know that mothers have a great influence on their children, I know that and it’s a great responsibility.
But you know, mother’s don’t get training to be a better mother right hahaha!
4. How are you going to celebrate mothers day?
Hey, every day is mothers day here !!!
5. Any tips for other women having issues with their mother?
A bond with your mother is very important. Also look at your grandmother. It’s all connected.
Make the bonds with your mother and grandmother the best and strongest bonds and you will have a happy life.
Chaya – My mother is an angel, I love mum!
1. How was your mother’s influence on you?
My mum is the sweetest woman in the world. She is patient, loving, caring and always there for me and my 2 brothers. It seems like by meeting our needs, her needs are being met.
And she is a great cook! My daughter loves her dearly.
So it’s hard for me to live up to her. Sometimes I almost feel my daughter loves her more than she loves me. My mom is a perfect woman!
2. How important is your mother’s love to you?
Don’t know that to do when my mum wouldn’t be with us anymore . . .
3. How does your mother mirror you with you being a mother to your child/children?
I can’t be like my mum at all! I’m restless, impatient, have had a lot of relationships, like to be on the move, hate cooking and housework and I’m not refined and so cultivated like my mom is.
My mom and I have opposite tastes and we are totally different, but we totally respect each other. My daughter, her character, tastes, even the way she looks, is more like my mom’s.
4. How are you going to celebrate mothers day?
Any reason to have a party it’s good enough to me! I like to get her gifts and not just for mothers-day.
A nice scarf, flowers, good chocolates, get her wellness products, soap, a robe or a good book. Or I also like to get a great cake (I can’t bake myself!) for her birthday and the sorts.
We also like to take her out for dinner though she likes home cooking the best!
It’s fun let her know how we all appreciate her and to see her smile and feel happy and loved. She really is an angel !
I’m very grateful to have her as my mom and my daughter feels the same way about her.
I know other people don’t have a loving mother and that must be painful, because the love of a mother is so special, deep unconditionally, and almost divine! I wish everybody could experience this special love. Everybody deserves love, no exceptions.
My daughter and I love mum!!!
5. Any tips for other women having issues with their mother?
Appreciate, respect and love yourself first.
From that position it becomes much easier to deal with the issues, whatever it may be.
I feel it all starts with one self. Again, everybody deserves love, no exceptions. Thank you!
Sunny – My mother and step mother were self centered
1. How was your mother’s influence on you?
Well I wish it wasn’t such a big influence but I’m afraid she had made her mark on me and my 2 sisters.
I always thought I don’t want to be unhappy like my mother was at my age (I’m 36) but I have to admit I’m sort of in the same groove with my marriage, job situation and overall well being.
My mother and father got a divorce when I was 7 years old. She couldn’t take care of us so we got to live with my father. This was fine until my father got remarried. This woman thought she could do a better job taking care of me and my sisters as she did her 3 sons. These guys were great fun and together we plotted against my step mother a lot!
At a certain point my step mother sent me away to my mother saying that taking care of my mother’s children was not her job. But she accused me of lying, stealing, and all kinds of nasty things.
My mother didn’t want me, I could tell.
I swore I would run away as soon as I could and I did when I was 16. I dropped out of school and became half of an alcoholic living in a big city.
My sisters helped me out of that mess when I was 22. I went back to school and gradually had more of a normal life.
2. How important is your mother’s love to you?
She says she loves me and my sisters and I swear I wish she would really love me!
But this woman doesn’t even love herself.
3. How does your mother mirror you with you being a mother to your child/children?
I have one son, his name is Chris and he is 7 now. I would do anything to protect him. I would never ever get a divorce even if my marriage would be bad, because I know how bad a divorce can be for my son. And my husband feels the same.
His parents were also not happy in their marriage, but the stayed together and this was less damaging to the kids involved.
My sisters also have kids and they are better mothers than grandma has been to us, for sure!
4. How are you going to celebrate mothers-day?
My mother doesn’t deserve to be celebrated really . . . .the same goes for my step mother.
I know they did their best, but for me, this simply wasn’t good enough.
They were too selfish and self centered and shouldn’t have had children. Don’t tell a living soul I said so (smile).
And I hate being a ‘good’ girl, so they don’t expect much from me anyways.
5. Any tips for other women having issues with their mother?
Get away from a selfish self centered unloving mother as fast as you can. These women do not deserve your focus.
Get a life of your own and later on you can always look back and see what needs to be worked out, healed and buried.
Realize that the mess in your mother’s life isn’t your fault at all.
You can always forgive your mother and step mother, but you first need realize it’s not your fault and you need to forgive yourself before you can move on and find your happiness.
Mothers-Day-Gifts of a different kind
Mothers-Day-Gifts of a different kind:
Here are some great ways to celebrate your mother and mothers day:
• When is mothers day in your country? Find out!
• Send her your love and blessings
• For a moment, see her as your perfect mother, just as she is.
• See her as a Goddess who gave you your physical life. Celebrate this Goddess
• Reverse roles: see her as your daughter and love her that way
• Feel grateful for all the gifts your did receive from her
• Write her a funny mothers day poem
• Tell her you love her and really mean it!
• Thank her for all she gave to you
• Forgive her for all the ‘wrongs’ she did to you
• Feel your pain once more and let go forever now
• Get her a powerful healing crystal
Tell her you are sorry (and mean it!)
• Get her some nice flowers
• Bake her a home made cake
• Cook her her favorite dish
• Call her up and really listen to what she has to say
• Send her a wonderful card and write your own text
• Tell her you appreciate all the sacrifices she endured while being a mother to you
• Take her out for lunch or dinner
• Get her a nice piece of jewelry
• Share your favorite pictures
• Go out shopping together
• Tell her what she wants to hear, suspend your opinions and enjoy doing so
Enjoy your mother like it is the last mother’s day together
• Write her a letter or at least a short note (or email or text message)
• Have a hair cut together
• Write her an emotional mothers day poem from the bottom of your heart
• Get her a gift she would enjoy
• Get her a basket of fresh fruits
• Give her a warm hug and a big kiss
• Get her some live mothers day plants
• Hold her hands, be with her and say nothing
• Send her a sentimental post card or e-card
• Pray for your mother and wish her the very best
• Get her a silk rose
• Find her some arts and crafts for mothers day she likes
• Pay her a visit and don’t expect anything
These are just some mother’s day tips and whatever you do (or don’t do), why not do it with feeling, appreciation, respect and sincerity?
Every day is mother’s day!
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