My Mother told me:
"I'm Done With You"!

by Gail Greene
(Virginia Beach, VA, USA)

On this Mother's Day...
I will try to make this short.
I have two sisters I am the youngest 42 middle sis is 45 oldest is 47.

My Mother decided when I was 9 that she no longer wanted to be married to our Father. She had been a great Mother up until this point so it indeed took us ALL by surprise especially my Father.

He was (IS) the greatest Father and man anyone could ask for. Not just saying this either. He took on us three girls raised us as she went along her way remarrying twice with very little and I mean VERY little help from her we saw her maybe once a month if we were lucky.

Anyway it took me till age 18 to finally forgive her for leaving us and not being a part of our lives any longer.

I did "forgive" (reluctantly so) however NEVER forgot.

Long story short I married, have two boy's teens now 14 and 18.

I divorced about 9 years ago we have gotten back together yet not remarried and have through sooo sooo much as one can gather.

My Mother is highly controlling and tries telling me what to do ALL the time with my relationships which I find to be annoying considering she was not there for me for most of my life.

I have been seeing a man out of town whom used to be my boyfriend as a teen an we have reconnected.

I am currently living with my ex-husband (not remarried mind you) and have not been happy yet again with him due to his alcoholism which broke out marriage up in the first place.
So naturally I started looking for happiness else where and started a relationship with my ex-boyfriend from when I was a teen.

My Mother found out and we have argued about it so so bad I have told her to stay out of it and I would make my own decisions good or bad and that I didn't want to discuss it because it would stress our relationship as Mother and daughter.

Of course she can not heed my warning!
She leaves me such horrible horrible messages on my cell about my boyfriend I mean just down right hurtful.

The last was about two months ago when she left a message saying and I quote 'I'm Done With You"!!

It hurt me to my core and I have not called her nor has she called me. Here it is Mothers Day and I have not spoken to her to even say Happy Mothers Day. Am I wrong in not calling her and trying to patch things over??

I have sooooo much resentment from the past and had just i mean JUST begun to try and get beyond her leaving us and she does this to me.

How should I proceed????
Any suggestions??